Day 8 of the blogging challenge asks, “what are your top 5 goals you wish to accomplish despite your chronic illness?”
This is a great question. I have found that even though I live with a lot of pain that I am ambitious and stubborn. I know that I am not capable of doing all that others are but I do not think that I am incapable in general. I know that I am able to do all things with small modification. The following are the goals that I plan on accomplishing and how.
1. Bachelors Degree. I am currently working on my degree for Special Education. It has been a struggle but I am doing okay. With my professors and friends help I have been maintaining good grades and making something of myself. I am one year away from achieving this goal and (hopefully) making a difference in kids lives.
2. Being a good wife. I do not want to be the wife that does nothing. I will not be the wife who doesn’t clean around the house or cook because of my illness. I believe that a marriage is 50/50 and I will not be the wife that makes my husband do everything. I will work and participate in household activities. I am lucky to have a man in my life who loves me more than anything and is willing to do anything to help me but I can not and will not take advantage of him. Next June I plan on marrying my best friend.
3. Masters degree. With EDS it seems unrealistic to expect to teach for 30 years. Teaching is a lot of standing and helping children throughout the day. I want to work for a Masters in hopes to grow into a position in project management or administration. I enjoy what I do and can’t wait to teach but I want to keep realistic goals. Teaching is my passion but moving towards admistration will help me in the long run and allow me to live out my dreams.
4. Being a mom. This is a goal that I’m not sure how I will accomplish but it will be accomplished. I will either have my own children, adopt, foster, or a combination. The only thing that I know for sure is that I will be a mom and I will be a good mom. No mom is perfect but I will do my best. My goal is that my children will never suffer because of my illness. My children will be aware of my struggles but I hope that they never suffer because of me. That would kill me.
5. Retiring. As an EDS-er retirement is a long time away. It is hard to imagine that far ahead because I can not anticipate how my EDS will progress. Retirement is something that I really want to accomplish because it is an ambitious goal. It seems to be far fetched but it is my ultimate long term goal.